Be a Man

November 29, 2011


Be a Man! Yes that is what I said. Be a Man! But what does that mean? Does it mean to not cry? Does it mean to take responsibility? Does it mean to be in charge? It just simply means grow up and that may include our masculinity being challenged.

Sometimes our masculinity needs to be challenged. Many have been taught that men don’t cry or show any emotions. Many have been taught that men are to be in control and responsible. The extremes that have been instructed in some cases are not reasonable. However it might not be all wrong. We as men are to be the head of the household. We are to consider ourselves the stronger vessel. Somebody must step up and be responsible.

When taken to extreme, the suggestion that men don’t cry is absurd. When taken to extreme teaching that the man being the head means that he is in charge of everything is absolutely silly. If taken to extreme the thought of men being responsible means accepting the consequences for things beyond their control is outrageous. In many cases these have taught as truths.

There are times men need to cry. Children cry when they don’t get their way. As men we should be able to recognize that there are situations in life we just have to face. We would like to think that we are able to do everything but we are not. When we learn how to allow others to help and that we do not have to be in control of everything life gets much less complicated. Accepting the consequences for things beyond our control may seem admirable however it is not necessary. That is not what God expects. He just wants us to follow Him.

Ezekiel was told by God that his wife would be taken from him and that he was not to cry or mourn or act in any way in distress. He was to be strong for the people. He was an example before them. To take that as men are not to ever cry or that men should be in total control and responsible for everything that happens is a stretch. Masculinity should be gauged by the willingness of one to follow God and accept the role He has for us.

There is a time our masculinity needs to be challenged. When God said he was looking for a man that was the challenge. It doesn’t mean that we have to live like the Lone Ranger or not ever show any emotion. It does mean however that we should show some progress as we mature. We may cry just not over spilt milk.

Be a Man.

Man_Up and be the man God wants you to be.



How much can you take?

October 3, 2011


Have you ever said “You’ve had enough?” Although I have been at this place several times in my own life I have not fully come to conclusion on how this works.  It is possible for us to not be fully cooperative with God’s plan and almost become dysfunctional because of discomfort.  At that point we are not comforted by what God may be doing for us.  We are not content by any stretch of the imagination.  All we know is that we hurt and we don’t want to hurt any more.  So we may say that we can’t take any more and we’ve had enough.

The reason I said that I’ve not fully come to conclusion as to how all this works is this.  I know this.  If we are serious with God we must believe that He is working also.  He said in His word that if we would draw near to Him.  He would draw near to us.  When we start getting close to the end, something starts to happen in us.  I am not so sure that we don’t sense that the end is near.  It may manifest as anxiety or anticipation but I do believe God begins to do something in us.  It may be for encouragement that this is not the end and that God has more.  It may be that others need to know and hear that God has more for you.  It just seems obvious that God begins to stop and orchestrate change.  The part that is puzzling is that there is still time involved.

We must come to the place of overcoming the temptation to withdraw or back away because that is the place we become dysfunctional. God knows that we hurt. God knows that we experiencing a near unbearable dilemma. He also knows the necessity of taking us this way.We must accept that God knows best and He is in control. There are times it is not easy however it can be accomplished.

Man_Up and be the man God wants you to be.

What does God want

October 1, 2011

There are some very beautiful places in the world. Some are very accessible while others are in the most remote areas.


God is looking for a man who is willing to go where He asks him to go and do what He asks him to do and say what He asks him to say. Some of the requests God has for us seem easily understood. A few of them may even seem able to be accomplished from the onset. Some however will seem not so easy to see or understand and we may even wonder how God is going to work things out.

What I mean by understanding is this. Our confidence in following or obeying God is based on our ability to communicate with God. I am not referring to talking to God. I am referring to talking, listening and understanding God. If we are able to communicate successfully with God the odds of our accomplishing the tasks increase dramatically.

The hard part is there seems to be too many obstacles. Some we have control over and others we don’t . We just have to remain faithful in spending adequate time with Jesus. We may make mistakes. We may even consider ourselves as failures at times. That is life and we are going to have to be okay with it. God is on our side. He is for us and not against us. We can make it.

Man_Up and be the man God wants you to be.

Taking care of others

June 30, 2011

​Nehemiah told the people while working on the wall to fight for their families. He set them in order according to their families and told them to protect one another. He declared to them they were to be responsible for the safety of one another. He instructed them to work with tools in one hand and battle instruments in the other. It may seem strange to some but he was given a very important feat to accomplish and it would take extraordinary measures to accomplish.
​These workers have just come through a period of time when God had pulled His spirit from them. They had been mistreated, taken advantage of, ridiculed, and made fun of until they were just surviving. They needed to be rebuilt emotionally and spiritually just as the wall had to be rebuilt physically. It is very interesting how God sends the right encouragement at the most relevant time to fulfill His will. The wall was finished in an extraordinary fifty two days.
​As a people we need to pay attention to what is being said. He is telling them that what they are doing will make a difference. We can’t afford to think that we don’t matter. The day we think we can’t make a difference is the day we become absolutely ineffective. It is imperative we look at ourselves and our efforts as important not only to God but our society.
We must believe that what we do and how we do it is of great consequence.
​The truth is we all need some encouragement from time to time. It may seem like sometimes we need encouragement all the time. The work needs to be completed. The enemy needs to be defeated and we are essential. It is okay to fight for what is right. It is okay to stand firm in your faith. Be encouraged in the fact that you matter and what you are capable of is significant.
​God has some encouragement for you.
​Man_Up and be the man God wants you to be.

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